I can get kind of dramatic in my head

I thought I would share my notes. For those who showed some interest and for those in our MOPS group that were unable to make it today.

If you saw my earlier post: Friendly Feud, you’d know that many of us were surprised by the top answers from our game, myself included! If you do not know what I'm talking about, now would be a good time to read the previous post (then come back here)

Today I talked about being a blessing to your husband. It’s based off of this book: The Husband Project.

Before we got into that, I talked really quickly about communication. It goes hand in hand with The Husband Project.

Next month Mark & I will have been married 11 years. We usually communicate pretty well by now. But, even after all this time we occasionally screw up. Sometimes since we’ve been together for so long, we feel like we already know what the other is thinking, so why bother asking?

When I was preparing for the friendly feud game I figured I would start off by getting his answers. I thought to myself, "I don’t even really need to ask, I know what he’s going to say". I could just write his answers for him. But, I figured to be fair, I would see what he had to say.

We got to the question: what does he think about most often? I definitely could have skipped this one. I knew what his top answer would be. The same thing that every man was going to put…sex. So, when he named three other things, for his top three, I immediately thought to myself, “Why isn’t he thinking about “that” all the time”. Then I’m thinking, “It must be me! I am fat. He doesn’t love me" .... I can get kind of dramatic in my head.

I’ve been known to just stewed on thoughts like that for days until I’m convinced that there’s something really wrong with me or that my husband is probably having an affair. Here I am, all mad at him in my head, for something he didn’t do - just because his top 3 answers didn’t include sex!

Instead of letting my imagine run wild I decided to communicate. I asked him what I was thinking. Which was, "why isn’t sex your number one answer"? He started laughing at first and said, “you really think that’s all men think about"? To which I replied, not all the time but a lot of the time!

This turned into us having a conversation about how stressed he was at work. There were some situations he had to handle & some decisions he had to make. He had been having trouble sleeping cause he would lay awake thinking about it all. We had both been so busy lately we hadn’t had time to talk it out.

Now, if I hadn’t have communicated with him how I was feeling, in that moment, I would have been on my own feeling betrayed & unloved while he was just over there feeling stressed out & tired.

You’re not going to know how to bless your husband, if you don’t talk to him. Your idea of what he might want or need might be very different from what he might actually want or need.

Also remember it could change day to day. Even if you’ve been together for forever, just take a minute & say, hey babe (or whatever you call him) What can I do today to bless you? How can I help you today?

That brings us to The husband Project....