If you saw my earlier posts: you’d know that many of us were surprised by the top answers from our friendly feud game, myself included! You'd also know that communication is key and goes hand in hand with the husband project. Again, if you are completly lost, I suggest you read the two previous posts..... I will wait.
The Husband Project:
I don’t remember who told us, we may have just read it somewhere. But, before we got married Mark & I were told about the 100/100 plan. Most people go into a marriage thinking it’s 50/50. Give & take. If he does this, I’ll do that and vice versa. That’s not necessarily a bad thing.
However, the 100/100 plan gets you each thinking about blessing your spouse. If both of you lived each day trying to “out bless” the other. What kind of relationship do you think you could have? It could probably be pretty great!
The Husband project shows you how to practice that in realistic ways. Now, it’s not really 100/100 at this point. Because the husband project is about you blessing your husband for 21 days.
There is another book, by the same author, called: The marriage project.
My husband and I did this (I have another blog post about that from earlier in the year)
I really think you should start with this one though. How can we except our husbands to try something, if we’re not willing to try it first. Hey babe, wanna bless me for 21 days!? It might go over a little better if you’ve already done some blessing yourself.
The idea behind the husband project is that you’re doing things intentionally to bless your husband. A lot of times we do things that are a blessing. But, we’re doing them out of habit or necessity. We’re not doing them to show our husband that we love & respect him.
I know that it can be a little overwhelming. As moms, esp moms of little ones, we’re already doing a lot! So, the thought of adding even one more project to our plate isn’t always thrilling.
Just know that the husband project will benefit you too! I did it for my husband. The first few days he didn’t seem to notice. At least, he didn’t say anything. Then, about half way through he started asking, "why are you being so nice"? I told him, “I’m trying to be a more excellent wife". He was like, OK.... Then I found out he was talking to other people about me. Telling them, “Hey guess what my wife did for me” …
Proverbs 31:28 says, "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her"
I know some people might think it’s old fashioned or sexist for us to take care of our men. Yet, it is biblical and it will bless your marriage! It might take awhile. But, more than likely your husband will notice a difference in you and he’ll attempt to be different as well.
Eventually, hopefully, you can get to where you’re living a 100/100 lifestyle. Striving to bless one another daily.
We teach our children the golden rule: Do unto others as you would like done to you. What better example to give them than by starting with your family. Showing them, first hand, how to bless one another.
Now, you might be wondering how to get started. It's easy! Just read my next post....
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